Can a long distance relationship in college work? Yes and no, it depends on the couple. Just like anything else, there are pros and cons to the situation. Before you decide whether or not you should stick with your significant other, take a look at both sides and really think about your options.
If you are entering your freshman year and you and your significant other are deciding to stay together while attending different colleges, think again. You should also reconsider a relationship that sprouted up over summer break and you plan to keep it going into the school year. Of course these relationships do work sometimes, and that’s great and something we should all appreciate. However, the truth of the matter is that most of the time these relationships end for one reason or another.
One of the main reasons that these relationships don’t work out is because people change and grow so much while they are in college. The person you are when you walk onto campus that first day of college is not the same person who will walk across that stage and accept the diploma. During your years as a student you will face challenges, you will fail and succeed, you will find your passion and become the person you are meant to be. The same thing will happen to your partner. In the end, you may no longer be compatible.
Another reason to reconsider long distance relationships is because it could hold you back. Because you are so worried about what your partner is doing or thinking, it could prevent you from meeting new people and experiencing new things. When you picture your life as a student do you see yourself sitting in your dorm room either on the phone or face-timing with your partner while your roommates and friends are out having fun? That’s not how it should be and you might end up regretting it.
Other than academics, college is all about the experience. You will find that your best high school friends may drift apart. You may realize that you no longer have much in common with your posse from back home. This is what can happen with a relationship as well.
Before you take off for college, you need to ask yourself a few questions about your relationship. Do you see yourself with this person in the long run, speaking about marriage and children. Do you have any problems and how often do you fight? Is your relationship physical? Are you and your partner good at communicating with each other? How long have you been together?
If you ultimately decide to stay together and make things work, here are some things to think about; discuss some ground rules and make sure you are both on the same page about what is expected out of the relationship. When it comes to planning visits, talk about equality. Jealousy has no place in a long distance relationship, always be honest and open and learn to trust each other. Put your college experience and school work first and encourage your partner do to the same.
Although it is a tricky situation, there are definitely some benefits of being in a long distance relationship. Seeing each other will still give you butterflies. You can grow on your own, but have someone by your side when you need them. You don’t always have to be presentable, and when you do dress up for a date it will feel more special. If you can make it through college in a long distance relationship, you will know that your love can withstand almost anything.
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